Learning to Trust Yourself
Welcome.
We are taking a step today.
A small step forward
in learning to trust ourselves
a little bit
deeper level today.
One step down a path of
finding a little bit more inner peace.
And are these the same thing?
Trusting ourself.
Think about an inner peace.
Doesn't that feel like a stillness?
Like the surface of this beautiful lake?
If you've been following along with me,
coming back right to the end of this book,
The mountain is you.
I don't know how many sessions
we've done out of this book.
Might it be 15 or 20?
I don't even know.
But we're right at the end.
This has been a book that is helping us
dive deep into self-sabotage.
How we are
recognizing an internal conflict
where we have needs that haven't been met.
Or maybe
we're meeting them in ways
that are counterproductive to other needs.
To feel that that is a a tension,
a conflict.
Isn't that the opposite of inner peace?
And inner conflict?
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loss channel.
I help people bring fasting concepts
into their life,
integrate it with every other good
practice of health.
Beautiful movement in the body,
healthy eating, giving us the nourishment
that we need for body, mind, spirit.
But it's a lot of mindset.
Today we're driving,
diving deep into mindset sometimes.
Yeah.
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Deep dives with doctor Z.
You know,
do some deep thinking and talks.
Bring some of that flavor.
Check out some of the other playlists
like the playlist for this book.
Walk through it
with us and get up to speed.
That's a lot
of mindsets because we can do sessions.
I've got so many I want to do.
Dig through papers and learning.
You know, a lot of fasting channels
give you stuff like that.
But what is the mindset
that can help you to actually do it?
You know, because that is where
the rubber meets the road.
Isn't it
one thing to know a thing,
another to do a thing?
One thing to hear about a thing,
another to be it.
And.
To me,
in the health space, the thing
that is the most important to me.
It is a way of being.
We are healthy, we be healthy,
and to really fundamentally change.
You see, if we're trying to lose weight,
if we're trying to solve
a metabolic problem
like that's
getting way down into our identity.
Who am I?
What is my way of being in the world?
If I'm gonna if I could
bring any way of being to myself.
That's why I put this beautiful lake.
This would be a way of being. Stillness.
Inner peace.
Listen to what Brianna West has to say
as we're heading toward the conclusion
of this series.
This is out of a session section.
Learning to trust yourself again.
You know,
if we even just reflect on that
for a minute.
Have you had a season?
We can probably even think of
two sides of it.
Have you had a season where you
didn't trust yourself
and then regretted it,
where you had a feeling
you knew something was the right
path and you didn't take it?
You can think of the other side of it,
too, right?
Have you had a time
where you really felt something
and then it didn't
turn out the way you thought?
Maybe those are the hardest ones.
You think
if you're in a season where you feel like,
maybe I need to take a step, I need to.
Trust myself a little bit more.
Maybe
we lean into the former
and we gain perspective from the other.
Maybe we've been hurt, even by ourselves
where we'd like.
We thought we could trust this.
We got into this book sometimes, right?
Like. And other books we've looked at.
Not every emotion,
not every thought comes in here, is
just some sort of telepathic truth
it takes discernment to.
And so we can have grace for ourselves
as we are walking along this path.
Maybe that is the start
of some deeper perspective,
when we can
start to see ways that we have navigated
our experience in places
where decisions that we've made.
Leading toward health and leading toward
not health.
You know,
we're trying to follow this path.
I love this even
title mountain is you, right?
Mountain is me. It's all of us.
We're trying to accomplish
something in our life.
We're trying to move toward better health.
And we take a step today from these words.
Listen to this.
Inner peace is a state
of being connected to the deep internal.
Knowing that everything is okay
and always will be.
Even if it's not.
Perhaps that's what I read.
When I read it. I was like,
what if it's not?
You know,
I've been through some
some difficult stretches
recently with personal illness,
the death of a friend.
I say this is not okay.
And so it can be hard
to read a sentence like that.
But then also as we get some
from some space from things like that,
it's one of the big benefits,
fasting space in my view.
Our session fasting space in the body,
incredibly powerful spaces to make space
to take a deep breath and sink
into some big time truths in the body.
This can be a difficult sentence.
How did it land with you?
Maybe sometimes we don't feel that way,
but then we take space.
We gain perspective.
This is what we're trying to do
on our health journey, our walk toward
better health.
Find perspective and see that
even in the midst of great difficulty,
when it doesn't feel like this
in our emotional body,
that it actually is true,
and I the more I sink into it.
Share your experience.
Perspective
might be different one day than another.
I know mine would be, and that's okay.
But to
come back to a sentence like this
and remind ourselves,
even in the midst of the difficulty,
a deep internal knowing
that everything is okay
and always will be as
a centering perspective
is the type of thing
that can be like a rudder on a ship.
As we are trying to find perspectives,
you know, maybe it is coming to a space
where identifying cycles and patterns
in our life that aren't serving us
and we're trying to change,
and that is difficult.
You feel like, have you been in a sailboat
where the wind is blowing hard one way,
the sail is there and the rudder is moving
and you're trying to find that line.
You know, track that line with the boat
where we're just finding the line
you don't want to.
Have you ever felt it
where the whoever's running the boat is,
like really pushing it, and you can feel
the balance point to the boat.
It's like,
we don't want to tip this thing over.
I was like, but we're having fun.
We're finding the line, okay.
We can imagine something like that
in our line,
in our life
as we're we're getting blown about.
There's headwinds in our life, right?
The difficulty that we face,
what is the thing?
The keel of the ship and the rudder
that is helping us
to navigate these storms of life?
To me, we've gotten a phrase like this.
This is present
in many different perspectives.
But I just like the simple way
she phrases it here
a deep internal
knowing that everything is okay.
Sometimes we just need to tell ourselves
that.
I'm telling myself that right now.
The concept of finding inner peace
has been part of spiritual
and metaphysical practices for centuries.
I would say millennia.
Hasn't it
been like a big pursuit of people
as long as there's even recorded history?
People are writing about this.
I would say, you know, personally,
why does it have to be just a spiritual
or metaphysical practice?
You know, the type of thing,
you know, I'm here is fine to have that.
I'm here, you know, I don't know, I'm
at least coming out as a physician,
you know, of an extremely,
you know, scientific perspective,
the mainstream,
you know, practice of medicine in the West
is a very reductionist practice.
It doesn't recognize, you know, spiritual
or metaphysical practices.
That's fine.
I think there's a place for that. Right?
Analytical, looking at matter and what is.
But isn't a sense of inner peace
something that we need
within a Western medical perspective isn't
the type of thing that can bring health
and healing to the body.
Isn't that a big part
of being a human being?
And isn't that even something I'm
sure that could be studied scientifically?
Isn't it something that has analytical
value, actually, and it has that,
and we can bring in every other type
of human
experience to it.
And here's the reason.
Look at this quote.
I want to share this quote with you today.
Albert Camus
in the midst of winter,
in the midst of winter,
meaning season of our life
as much as an actual winter, I found
there was within me
an invincible summer.
I loved that quote reading that yesterday.
Inner peace
as a concept
I think could sound.
Kind of soft, you know, kind of like.
Going to a spa
and relaxing or having some meditation
session where it's like,
oh, you know, but like to me,
I mean, bring it.
This word
invincible is so powerful, right?
And to me,
does this capture inner peace in a way
that is so much stronger
than I've thought of it before?
This is bringing in, okay, a brutal winter
or a very cold and frigid,
a difficult season.
Thinking about the struggles that we have
and finding in that space
the invincible summer.
That's a type of peace that is powerful,
that is not just
some superficial level thing that is like.
Oh, we're just feeling good.
I know we have an invincible summer.
You can't. You can't shut it down.
That quote
is is right here that came out of this.
And so she goes on with commentary
about that.
This quote sums up the entirety of what
inner peace really is,
the understanding that no matter
what is happening around you,
that there is a place of total knowing
and calmness within you, still.
Still.
Not only
are you capable of returning to that place
when you need to, but it is possible
to live your entire life from that place.
I suppose it's true.
Maybe that's the struggle of of life,
right?
Is to like, say, well, is that possible?
I know my life is very far
from that type of experience,
but I would say it's aspirational.
At least I would like it to be.
Wouldn't you like it to be?
An aspirational goal,
like looking toward the mountains
and looking toward the sun?
It's like sometimes in life we feel
we don't have a compass.
Where are we going?
We're trying to use something like this.
Like the sun can be our compass.
We don't need a compass.
We can just look toward the light.
We see the sun on the horizon.
We say West.
Westward is where we are going
and we know it and do our best.
They say here the challenge, right?
This is what I'm saying. The challenge.
The challenge is learning how to connect
with it in the first place. Yes.
And then how to rewire how
we respond to our mind,
which is always jumping
from one worst case scenario to the next.
I say, yeah, it can be jumping from
one scenario to the next, like worst case
scenario, or just dealing with scenarios
that are actually bad in life.
You know, like you go through a season
in life where it's like,
okay, it's like a bad thing happened
and then another one and another one.
And I don't know,
that's been my experience to say,
do things come in threes?
Is it.
Sometimes it seems that way or, you know,
sometimes it comes in ones and twos.
And then we hit a three
and it was extra bad.
So we remember it.
But I've had a three lately.
Oh man.
And so that is the challenge.
And so
you know, you know we could
bring this down into fasting space.
You know, real physically in the body.
We can bring it right into our experience,
you know, with things
that I want to help everyone unwind.
Like what a big session like this is.
How do we deal with that?
Inner peace is a coping mechanism
in and of itself,
something we culture and train
and bring to us,
to give us strength
to make it through these sorts of things.
Lots of discussion
that we've had on the channel as far as,
okay, we could turn to food, right?
What is our relationship with food?
Sometimes food is the way that we get
through these sorts of things.
I know I've had big seasons of my life
where that has been the case
where like, comfort food is like
the only thing that got me through, right.
And thank God for it. Right.
And I've, I've talked a lot about that.
But then consequences to it
put on a lot of weight.
Wasn't that feeling badly.
Good morning.
Hello. Welcome.
Giving myself grace.
So helpful on the tough days.
New thinking for me
this year helps with all or nothing
thinking.
No starting over.
Life and health is a journey.
I love that.
Thank you so much for sharing that.
Yeah, all or nothing thinking is something
that I have personally struggled with.
I've recognized that in my life,
all or nothing.
It's like either we're 100% or zero
when we started something and if it ended,
then we're, you know, we're off
and it's like,
this is exactly the sort of space to get
into things so common, right? So common.
So many of us experience that.
And I know in my experience
I can feel like, oh,
you know, when we don't talk about this
and we're bottled up
in our own little spaces, you think, oh,
am I the only person that feels this way?
But you start having a broader
conversation.
You realize almost
everybody at times is feeling this way,
and when we're on a journey,
we're just learning.
You know, every day is an opportunity.
We feel we hit an obstacle.
But then in retrospect,
it became a step that we stepped up and
this is how we are going to climb over,
you know, these mountains in the distance
by turning our obstacles into stairs
that lift us up and bring us there.
She has to know
when people are referencing
knowing something, deep down,
they might say something like, oh,
I'm worried, but deep down I know it's
going to be okay.
She asked, what do you think
they're referencing when they say that?
Have you ever said that?
Deep down, I know it's okay?
Have you ever said that?
When she started this section?
A deep internal
knowing that everything is always okay,
that everything is okay
and always will be right,
and we think, oh, that sounds a little pie
in the sky sometimes.
Is that really true?
But have you said this?
I'm a little angry at this person,
but deep down
I know that it's going to be okay.
She says, where is that? Deep down?
And what is that? You know,
do you have a deep down like that
where you've referenced it before?
All of a sudden it's starting to make it
a little more tangible,
because that doesn't
that feel like something that all of us
might have said at some time?
At some point? Deep down,
I know it's okay.
And if we can find a moment
where we touched down
into something like that
in a difficult moment,
we found actually a place of peace
in that space,
and something difficult is said, something
we can reach back into
and actually bring in and recognize.
Know there is some space,
whether it's a physical space,
some neuron in there
that we sink into, or it's more of a
what someone would call a spiritual thing,
I don't know.
Okay.
People going
to have different perspectives on it,
but whether it's real is
what is our experience of it.
If we experience something like that,
then it is real and can be helpful.
They're talking about a place
within themselves that has wisdom,
a better understanding,
more insightful perspectives
of what's really going on.
And isn't that what we need sometime?
Isn't a space like that
like an invincible summer within us
that isn't shaken by the stress
and the fear
that so often comes to us?
She says.
So much of finding inner peace
is being able to get to that place where
we can say that a lot of that is like,
don't look externally.
This is a big thing.
This is what our culture tries
to sell us all the time, right?
Is that
we that we don't have a space like that.
There isn't a space of peace
and contentment that we can turn to.
You got to turn to other things.
You got to turn to TV shows and streaming
services and social media
and consumption of things,
be it purchasing of products, consuming
eating of products and special drinks
and special supplements, and everything is
going to be the next thing that is going
to finally help us to feel content.
And I say everything
except maybe a coffee or whatever, because
I call coffee contentment in a cup.
So if you got to consume one thing,
maybe a tea, maybe a coffee,
here's something very simple and grounded,
and maybe sometimes even just a water.
And finding just benefit
from the simplest elements
in life that we don't need much.
And for a period of time
we don't need anything at all.
That's the fasting space,
a gentle, thoughtful period of time
with nothing at all,
and recognizing that even there
within ourselves.
Hey, look, we found it.
Even if it's a fleeting moment,
a little bit of peace
and contentment was here
and we didn't have to buy it.
It was actually there.
It's actually the process of saying no
to every other thing.
Stop looking externally for the happiness.
Realize it was sitting here
in the midst of the struggle
and the difficulty all along.
Here's how
they head toward the end of this section.
There's another metaphor in meditation
in which calmness
is compared
to a lake or a large body of water.
That's why I brought us here
to this serene,
reflective scene.
Your thoughts and actions
are like stones thrown into the water.
They're creating the ripples.
And we could throw a big stone in here
and just push.
Break up the mirror
and it would be the chaos.
All right?
Our thoughts and our actions are like
stones into the water, creating ripples.
The point of a meditation
is to make yourself quiet enough
so the water comes back to its natural
stillness.
Look, imagine we're doing it right now.
We throw the rock in,
but then we don't throw any more rocks in
the water,
going to settle back out on its own.
You don't have to force it.
You can't force the water to be still.
It will bring itself naturally back.
Our thoughts are like this.
This is what she's saying.
It does it on its own.
When you stop interrupting it.
Is this what we need?
Some space.
This is what I want in my life.
This is what I want these sessions
to bring into us.
The thinking that shows us that
so much of what we really need in
life is actually some space.
And when we stop trying to force,
when we stop trying to add and consume,
we stop looking internally,
we take some deep breaths.
So how do you stop the thoughts?
You just stop fighting with the thoughts.
You accept them.
You let them flow out.
Let them dissipate like the ripples,
the anxiety, the fear, the stress.
Even if we have five minutes,
maybe as we practice it
and we realize the benefit of it,
we clear out more space
and we can have 20 minutes
and really let the ripples
settle out.
She says.
This is how we find inner peace.
It's not so much
something you create as it is
something that you return to.
Let's return to it.
That's what I say.
It's there right now, presumably.
Right.
But we need the space
to let it return.
We return to it.
It returns.
It is here when we look for it.
I like, you know, the phrase
not something we create.
Maybe we don't create inner peace.
I love the thought.
Discussed it many times that we create
our health experience, ultimately
that we at least have a large role
in shaping it through the decisions
that we make, and that this is part
of what this experience of life is,
that we are creating it, the experience
that we have not 100% right.
We get dealt different cards
like everything's going along
and then it's like, what is that game like
Uno, you play Uno, all of a sudden
you get the draw for like,
oh, it's just playing out.
My cards draw.
And now I was like,
we're going backwards, right?
Whatever card game we are playing,
you know,
got to play the hand that we're dealt
to play the cards as they come to us.
But within the hand that we have,
we have the opportunity to decide
how are we going to navigate this.
And these decisions matter as important.
So we spend a lot of time thinking about
how do we play the cards.
You know, that's like what foods do
we put into our body
and which ones don't we.
And when do we eat?
And when do we say
this is a time for rest,
for the whole body, the digestive system
especially that does so much for us.
So we can take that creative side to it.
And then we realize anytime
we feel like pressure from it.
They actually
take the pressure off, return to that
peaceful state.
Nothing have to be done,
just like ripples in the water.
And let it settle out and realize
no matter what is happening out here.
Everything's going to be okay.
That's where we started
and we'll bring it home with that,
finding a space deep,
meaningful, centered,
grounded space in a place of knowing
that in the midst of the storm,
you can find a space like this
peaceful scene.
Or even for a few moments,
let the stress dissipate.
From a grounded, centered space like that
type of thing helped navigate
the waves of life.
Make the best centered,
grounded decisions that we can,
and find a space
ultimately,
in the midst of that, where we can build
a deep
trust for ourselves from that place,
because that's getting down
into the core of our being, right?
When all the distraction is resolved,
can we trust ourself
in that space?
I hope so will practice it today.
Wish you the very best on that journey.
Let me know how it goes
and I will look forward
to connecting with you again tomorrow.
Be well everybody.
