Water the Garden With Your Tears
My intention in this space is
to help you as much as I can move forward in health.
Take one step forward.
A powerful step forward in health today.
What is your experience?
Been on a health path if you're moving forward?
If you're trying to make a powerful decision,
it means we're trying to change, right?
And changing.
Maybe one of the most difficult things that we can do in life,
like change, often happens to us like change,
impossible to eliminate as much as we might try.
But to consciously change.
Isn't it the case that things that we really want,
the things that have great value to us, for
whatever reason in this life, often are on the other side
of a barrier, an obstacle,
a challenge, something that resists our path.
Many times that type of space is
it takes us right into the emotional core of our being.
And this is been my experience after working for many years
with people on a health path,
internal medicine clinic, weight management
clinic, type two diabetes focus
like we're getting right into a core spaces
both health in the body, emotional spaces.
And today I want to help us take one step to do that.
I'm going to read you a little passage
from this beautiful little book.
Dear artist, as we are working together
to create our health experience.
Today, this session, I titled it
Watering Water the Garden with your tears that came out of this.
Tears are a sort of thing.
Think of it like a fountain springing out.
Okay?
What is the barrier that you are facing?
Are you aware of it or are you not aware of it?
Is it buried deep or is it close to the surface?
Sometimes the type of thing that can really be an
unlock is the type of thing I want to help us with.
How do we unlock our health path?
I want it to flow, right.
We say we're looking at the dual reality
of our experience, that we're in a difficult space
and we face challenges and obstacles,
and that there can be struggle in life.
And on the other side of it, we want to minimize the struggle
that we want to flow through, that we're trying to let fasting
do the work.
We're in fasting space.
We're trying to unleash the power of a fasting space in our body
so that it can burn through excess and things that don't,
that aren't needed, that aren't serving us anymore, just let go
of it, is what we're trying to do with food for a little bit.
We let go of it just for the amount of time
it serves us, just for the amount of time
that feels good and helps to bring energy and life and vitality
and strength to the body of it.
All right.
But does it take deep work to get there?
Take a listen to this passage.
When a vessel becomes full of water,
the water simply overflows the vessel.
The vessel does not try to keep the water from releasing.
In this way, both the water and the vessel are free.
Neither suffers nor bursts.
Do you see?
Dear soul, I am talking to you and your tears.
You are designed to cry so that your vessel does not suffer.
So that it can retain equilibrium and regulation.
Overflow
is how you maintain well-being in your tears once released.
Water the garden that is this world.
Many of us have been conditioned
to hold our water to keep it captive,
and this is against our divine design.
You are a holy vessel filled with holy water.
This water is meant to move through, in and out of you.
It has purpose in the garden beyond you.
When the water builds and rises to your brim, set it free.
Let it flow.
I like to just read through a passage like that,
and I'll hit you with
some of my thoughts as we as
we go through it again on a deeper level.
How did it sit with you? What do you think of that?
I was, you know, planning out our session last night
and thinking through what should we talk about?
And I just came back to this book.
I said, let's hit something from this book.
Something that is nourishing, speaking to the soul.
Right.
Trying to give us strength and energy in a space.
I take as many sessions as anyone wants to talk about
metabolism, to talk about calories
and hormones and any kind of scientific topic.
I dive back in.
I've been putting together a couple talks,
you know, intermittently I put in
check out the playlist on academic talks,
can dig into some papers and science stuff.
The thing that's been speaking to me, the thing
that has been on my heart to share, is something like this.
You know, how do we take the knowledge to recognize,
okay, there's some simple,
basic truths that we need to know and that.
Okay.
Eating less can help a person to lose weight.
Yes it can.
But then with a caveat that most of the weight
loss world is focused on eating less, but never fasting.
It's one of the things I was reflecting on last night.
We are giving people conflicting information a lot.
We're hammering people.
You got to eat less. Okay.
And then this makes logical sense.
Want to eat less, lose weight.
But then we hit people.
But don't eat too little, okay?
Because if you eat too little,
you might slow down your metabolism.
You might hurt yourself.
And so I was just realizing what a confused place that is.
I was just feeling it on a deeper level last night,
that you can feel really boxed in or you feel like,
okay, especially if you're stuck in a place like,
hey, this is not working.
Have you experienced this?
Or it's like, I'm not necessarily making so much progress.
Turns out the physiology and the body.
We've reviewed this.
Calorie restriction without fasting.
Fasting is when the body understands
it would burn or saving the food for when.
I mean, we're saving that stored energy
for when the food's all gone, when the food's never gone.
This is how we can trigger slowing of the metabolism body
trying to preserve that energy.
Fasting is what totally opens up the space.
Body's like, oh, we can burn that now.
It's so profound.
I just have to keep reminding myself, okay, I remind myself,
this is really profound space,
but I like how they say it in here.
Set free. This is what I see as fasting.
Set free out of this little box
that a dieting paradigm can put us in very beautiful
and profound space.
Some of these lines I dive in with you here.
When a vessel becomes full of water, the water simply overflows.
Just Picture that picture, the picture
overflowing with water.
I mean, this is a beautiful metaphor for many things, you know?
Don't hang on to so much stuff. Maybe that's the stress.
Maybe that's trauma that has happened.
Maybe that is difficulty and struggle that we have.
Can we picture the picture?
Just let some of that flow out.
Don't hold it inside.
We do so much of this.
We're just like this all the time.
Fasting, showing us a model
that's more like this, you know, it's more open.
Do you want more openness in your life?
Try practicing some fast and try growing
in your process and experience.
My my experience has been that that process
has helped me to experience more openness.
This is what we want.
So just like we're picturing picturing that
okay, the vessel does not try to keep the water from releasing.
And if it did, it could be damaged.
Think of what that means for us in our experience.
Have you felt that in your life or is like you've got something,
some negative energy of some kind, mistakes
that were made, words that were spoken, we hang on to it.
We keep it in here.
Can't it damage the vessel?
We got into a lot of that in the fall.
We did that session on letting go of anger,
that we hang on to anger
because we think or we feel
that it's like punishing the person
or the thing or the situation that made us angry.
But isn't the case that when we hang on to it,
we end up just punishing ourselves?
That's what the saying can damage our own vessel.
Queen of Heaven is here. Let's cry together.
Oh, man, thank you so much.
I say let's do it.
No fake tears from me, okay?
I've done my share of tears in the last little while,
but, like, absolutely
let anything go that you can water the garden with your tears.
It's just saying it's okay.
You know, our society,
I think, seems to have this general thing
that says it's not okay.
I think we can feel a social pressure, you know,
just like maybe this is part of the social media age.
Like everything's got to be curated images
on the platforms and everybody's got to be okay.
But it's not always okay. Right?
What this is saying, don't hang on to it.
Don't keep it in there. My damage the vessel.
When the vessel is releasing the water,
what it says here, then you can see.
Then both the vessel and the water are free.
I love it.
Freedom for us. Freedom? Absolutely.
Freedom in our spirit.
Freedom from things that might have been binding us down
like depression and anxiety and all of these things.
Passage like this.
This is what I'm saying.
Is this helpful to you to get into this sort of space, to me,
helping me to take a deep breath, helping
to release
some of these things are the things that you need to let go of.
Let me know what are the things that you are struggling with?
Can you cry it out?
Is it something that you really need to?
Let it flow? That's what I say.
Since here you are designed to cry
so that the vessel doesn't suffer.
I think so often we think, oh,
if I'm crying, I'm suffering, right?
We don't want to cry.
We think, oh, is crying weakness.
So we keep stuff in.
We say, I'm not crying, so therefore I'm not suffering.
But crying is actually healing.
Do you feel that way?
Have you felt that way
when you finally cracked through the barrier
and you let the emotion out and the tears came?
Don't you usually feel better after that?
If you go through it like something about the process,
you say, well,
maybe the process isn't uncomfortable,
but like actually experiencing it.
You know, you have to experience something
in order to let the tears come.
We don't want to experience it again. We were heard in some way.
We got some deep thing.
If we bury it, then we say we don't.
We don't have to re-experience it in that space
so we can have compassion in our on ourselves
if we don't want to do it.
And we can see how that process develops or say,
who wants to go through something difficult?
But then it's like we're in a rock and a hard place
because it's like there's difficulty.
Either way, it's difficult to cry and to like, fully
be present with a grief and it's difficult to hang on to it to.
And so what is our choice?
This is giving us the opportunity to think really deeply.
You're designed to cry so the vessel doesn't suffer
that if we are here in a health space, right,
we are trying to take care of the body.
Right?
This is what I want for people.
I want weight that you don't want on the system.
I want you to help you release it.
Blood sugar that you have that's floating around you say,
I don't need it.
I won't burn it up in a fasting space.
I say, fasting is like a fire. We've got energy there.
We're just putting the logs on the fire.
That's the energy that we want to burn up. Okay?
We don't want suffering in the body.
I don't want suffering in the body for everybody.
Like the big point to me of being a doctor,
how do we relieve suffering in the body?
How how do we help minimize suffering, maximize flourishing?
This is everything that I want for people.
But it takes a process to do that, and it takes time to do that.
It takes care and thoughtfulness to do it.
To me, hearing from this and this perspective.
So you're designed to cry.
Do you believe that? I just believe that.
Don't be afraid of it.
Accept it and welcome it. That's what I would say.
You know, it can be hard to do,
you know, takes a lot of thoughtfulness
to intentionally open up a space where you might encounter
something like that,
give yourself a big pat on the back
for doing something that a lot of people won't do.
A lot of people say just burying the stuff,
but you say, I'm open to it, right?
If you're having trouble getting into a space like that,
that's what I say.
Fasting to me is like a gateway
into a deep emotional space in the body.
We initially feel those emotions first, as hunger
and hunger is both physical and it's emotional, right?
And so if you are trying to get in a space, say,
crack things open a little bit.
How do I get into an emotional space
where we can have a dual purpose, right.
Fasting space, you say?
Ultimate dietary space.
Nothing is coming in.
Putting the full weight of the metabolism
on that reserve energy just totally open up the space for weight
loss and wellness to come out of it,
if that's the path that you are on, okay.
But at the same time, it's opening up the emotional space.
So how I feel about this so that you can regain equilibrium
and regulation, this this passage
which is speaking to an artist, is everything to me
that is encompassing what we're trying to do in health
regain equilibrium and regulation.
Isn't this what we need in our body and our life?
Bring things back into balance.
Find a centering space of peace and contentment.
A space. Remember, we did the session. What did we call it?
Not necessarily seeking happiness, but seeking contentment.
Something much more grounded and stable, which is the type
of space that happiness and joy can flow out of.
Overflow is how you maintain well-being.
I just I love the word well-being.
Well-Being is what I want for myself and everyone you know.
Well-Being is.
To me, it feels like a level up from health.
You know, like health.
Okay?
Health to me feels like the absence of some negative thing.
And but well-being feels like so positive, you know?
The presence of flourishing.
Your tears once released.
Water the garden that is this world. To me.
This is just a beautiful words.
To me it is inspiring.
You know, I've shed some tears over the last month.
Certainly I think about.
Okay tears releasing.
Good for the person, right,
I felt better, I had some stuff I had to release.
It happened, you know, but then think, is the cycle not done?
You know, this is what is so beautiful
to think of as watering the garden that is this world, you know.
In the very micro sense, like we can look to natural cycles
and think about the incredible functioning of the body,
think of the incredible cycles in nature.
Everything is a continuous loop.
The water never disappears.
It's flowing from one thing into the next.
It's got its own life cycle.
But then this is, you know, a metaphor.
The fact that we released it.
Aren't we lighter?
Aren't we approaching things differently?
If everybody was letting go of everything that was weighing
them down and holding them,
you wouldn't the world be a better place?
We can't control other people.
And and what happens?
But we can control ourselves.
And isn't this what is important to do the work
that we need to do to make our contribution to the world
watering our little patch of garden are part of it?
You know, I really think this matters.
This is what I've been thinking about lately.
I think it matters for everyone.
I think it matters for ourselves,
and I think it matters for other people.
We matter. You matter. I just tell you.
Are you feeling that
this experience that we're having matters and.
If something is simple and is small, as our few tears
can be watering the garden of the world,
you know that matters I.
Many of us have been conditioned to hold our water right?
Keep the tears in.
Keep it captive.
Isn't that keeping us captive in a space?
But this is against our divine design.
You are a holy vessel filled with holy water.
Think of that.
That's how he's describing tears
as something precious, like sacred.
Right? That these.
These aren't to be feared.
These are good things are like the best things.
The water is meant to move through you
and then out of you see, it has a purpose.
Purpose to it.
Like we did the session a couple of days ago.
Fasting with purpose.
How about crying with purpose, right?
Like just bringing the intention to it.
Say I am letting go of everything
that is holding me back on this path.
Any bit of darkness, let it flow.
When the water builds, rises to your brim.
Set it free.
Let it flow.
I wish you the very best in this day.
Do some deep thinking on these.
I'm going to be and if you have the opportunity, water
the garden a little bit today.
I look forward to connecting with you again soon.
Be well everyone.
