Fasting Space

Today we are diving in on a question.

What is holding you back?

What is holding us back?

We're going to move toward that question.

Big that I've been thinking of, over our past sessions.

Which I've shared a bit about fasting as a practice.

Just like many health practices.

It's kind of got two layers to it.

It's like a superficial layer, and there's a deep layer.

And the reflection I was having overnight.

Is that each of these things are great,
and it's not like we can be on

only one of these tracks and like,
oh, I'm on a deep track every day.

You got to be dialed in deep level or like,
oh, I'm on a superficial track.

I can't.

We can experiment.

We can go between these levels.

The, the thing I was thinking about,

this morning was about a dolphin, I think.

Dolphin. So beautiful. Right?

Dolphin breathes air. It's on the surface.

It's experiencing the the surface of the ocean.

It's playing.

It's having fun.

Dolphin dives deep from time to time.

It really does.

And so, can we be like that?

Dolphin minds know no rules, do you think?

What is a carefree creature?

Dolphin comes to mind, right?

It it jumps around and splashes around,
and it's swimming out in the ocean.

Does what it wants. Okay?

The surface and the deep.

The surface level of fasting.

That's like, maybe that's just a resting place.

So we don't have to do anything much at all.

We don't have to crank up the intensity
of our thinking to any higher level than we want.

Is it enough to have the vibe
like a nice little coffee shop?

I'm going to grab a coffee at tea.

We're going to sit here. We have a chat.

And what's happening in that space?

The body is working.

Body is running.

So if the thing that is holding you back,
if you're here on a weight loss journey,

a health journey, moving toward better health,
if the thing that is holding you back say,

what's holding me back is the stress
and so much to do, so much pressure everywhere I go.

I say, hey, welcome to fasting space na no rules.

Got that session. No rules for weight loss.

Everything that we're doing designed.

Hey, we're gonna just take down the pressure.

You can tune in, can float through a space,
say it's like a distraction.

You know, it's like,
oh, we're dialing in on a health practice.

That's the surface.

Maybe that's the only thing that has to happen.

But the only thing that could happen

that could float in a direction of,

health positivity and lightness.

Okay. At the same time is like dual band.

We've got the deep layer.

This question, what is holding you back?

It's a deep question.

I want to sink into the deeper layers of health.

You say maybe. Is that fasting?

Maybe it's much beyond that.

Maybe it's just about mental health and life.

In our experience in general,
want to take every tool of health, wellness,

wholeness, life, vitality, positivity,

want to incorporate everything into this process,

like bringing in all the ingredients
so the garden can flourish, right?

The soil, the light, the water, the nutrients, care

and cultivating the whole environment
so that the life that we want to support can flourish.

That's what we're trying to do in this space.

So you just open up a question like that,
whether it's on the surface

or it's diving deep, what is holding you back?

Before I send my thoughts out

into the digital universe, how does the question sit?

Doesn't answer come to you already?

Don't let me tell you.

Yeah. Do you tell yourself.

Think.

Think to yourself what is really holding me back.

This would be a great journaling prompt.

Just what is coming to you.

We're using the analogy climbing the mountain.

Tried to ask the biggest questions.

What is the mountain that we're climbing here?

This is a weight loss channel health channel.

So we're trying to get healthier.

We're trying to lighten the load in the experience.

But then we ask the bigger question is it deeper than that?

Is it something else entirely?

Do we have certain expectations that we're trying to live up

for someone else, someone else's goals other than ourselves?

What do we really want
and what is holding us back from that?

Gonna give you some more thinking from this book.

We've only we've only looked at the introduction.

The introduction, I thought was, just powerful.

I really liked the thought,
the other day, talking about, okay, climbing a mountain,

overcoming the obstacles, developing a power for mindset,

saying nothing is going to hold us back like that.

What is holding us back? Nothing.

That is the goal for sure.

Said you have to want to climb.

Do you think that's true?

Do you want to climb the mountain?

Do you have an obstacle?

Have you identified it? To say something is holding me back?

I see what it is.

Do you want to climb?

We said, hey, rent.

Rent a vacation home.

And just look at the mountain.

That's nice. That's like a surface level.

That could be fine.

You have a nice vacation.

If you can get to the mountains
and just sit and look at them.

Think about a fasting space. It's nothing.

This is an open space.

Body keeps running in that open space.

We're running the metabolism.

The cells need energy always.

The energy is being used up.

So when we're doing nothing, we're doing everything.

Basically, the brain keeps going, the heart keeps beating,

the diaphragm expand and contract.

The air is flowing in and out.

It's the breath.

Are we breathing
or is the breath happening to us and flowing through us?

What is holding us back? Say nothing.

Nothing is holding us back. We open up the space.

What do we see?

An open space, a fasting space, a meditation space.

Almost the same thing in the body.

Space for the body.

Space for the mind.

We see nothing is here means no barriers. Or.

But then we're in this tension and we see the potential.

We see the openness.

We see that barriers can be overcome.

Or maybe they aren't what we thought
or what we thought was a barrier was a stepping stone.

And then we live in the also
the reality, the struggle of life.

And we say, but I have real things
that have blocked my progress for a long time.

Maybe said I have been sitting in the same place
for a long time.

I see the mountain.

It's kind of always there.

And you know what? I'm. I'm tired of it.

This is what we've talked in the book.

Do you reach a point
or you say, I've had enough of this way of being.

It's time for something new.

Like we are here in a new year.

If there's ever a time to start fresh, to be new.

Okay,
this is the moment I say you decide if it's right for you.

Nobody tell you what to do.

You really want to change.

You say something is holding me back.
I'm going to overcome it.

There's only one person in the world who can come

to the difficult decision of saying,
this is the moment where we change.

Like the session
the other day, the star floating through space

for inconceivable time, billions of years

until the moment when everything changes.

Supernova.

Absolutely loved. That's that session.

Supernova. This is the point.

I love that, commentary in there.

You say supernova.

Very intense.

Maybe not ready to supernova in my life right now, you know?

But think about it.

When the time is right, you decide.

That it's time to be new. Time to go in a new direction.

And if you have struggled in a weight loss space,
I want to invite you

to spend some time in a fasting space.

Fasting space.

The program helping you to bring a fasting space
into the body, into your life.

Lose weight by doing nothing.

This is the potential of a fasting space.

Lose weight. We're doing it right now.

Just chilling out, having a coffee,

centering the mind in a positive and thoughtful space.

All we have to do.

When we're ready. Like the dolphin right? Dive down.

Try to hit something really deep.

Really deep is the first sentence
of the first chapter of this book.

Just like the first sentence,
if you remember from the, introduction.

Okay, the first sentence of this book.

I feel like you have to prepare yourself for it.

There is nothing holding

you back in life more than yourself.

I'm reading that to myself, okay?

As much as I'm reading it to anyone else.

That is one sentence.

Okay, let's just sit with it for a minute.

Do you think it's true?

You don't have to think it's true, okay?

You don't have to agree with it.

A sentence like that,
I say, it's also okay to be angry at it.

You can say this
person does not know what they're talking about.

They don't. You don't know my life. Okay?

I think a sentence like that, you know, a mirror
that is like

challenging us is a challenging sentence.

Here a question. What is holding you back?

And then someone tells you, look.

Look in the mirror.

I can hurt a bit.

I think.

This is what we say.

You have to want to claim. That's what I feel.

I mean, here, there.
If you. If you want to climb a mountain.

Not something everybody just does every day.

Some people say this is like a life goal.

I want to climb up a mountain in my life.

It's like people getting ready for it.

If you believe the title of this book,
The Mountain is you write this

that the primary barriers that we face are internal.

The human nature, the tendency of what we try to do

is to look externally, to blame things.

A process of blaming other things in general

is a process of distracting us
from the things we can actually change.

We have precious little ability to change

things that are external to ourselves,
the things that we really can change, our internal,

our ideas, our perceptions, our habits,

our desires, these things we can change.

But that doesn't mean that it is easy.

Do you believe that that's true?

I think a path of changing, a path of becoming new,
a path of developing a different

and healthier way of being in the world
that is more in line, in alignment with our values.

When we ask the question, what do I really want?

When we envision our future self
that is healthier, stronger,

more vibrant,
more at peace, experiencing greater joy and contentment?

Most of what stands in the way of a beautiful vision
like that.

Are the internal barriers, the experiences
that we've had, the trauma that we've experienced,

the resentment and anger that we are hanging on to,

the fear that we have of the unknown or of change.

These are the barriers that we build internally

to keep us from moving in that direction.

Some center.

Where is it in here?

In here is afraid of a change yoke.

See, it could be better, but could be worse.

Don't want to take the gamble.
Let's just keep things stable.

This is the message that is often coming.

Let's just preserve the status quo. Then it won't.

We won't risk failure.

We won't risk making things worse.

Maybe we've done that in the past.

We've tried to move in a direction and it got worse.

And we got the worst negative reinforcement.

And you say, I'm just not going to do that again.

I'm not even going to try to do it. Okay.

What a huge barrier can resonate with that.

These things hold us back.

These these thoughts are kind of us.

They're they're coming from us somehow.

But they aren't really us either.

They they're just mental and emotional constructs
that at some point served a purpose

that were trying to protect us from being hurt again,

I'm experiencing a failure of something we wanted.

And so they got built up.

They got solidified, maybe cemented in place.

And now they are the barriers
that are keeping us from moving down our health path.

And if we say in these sessions, I do want to climb,

I do want to climb up the mountain,
I do want to move toward it.

A this is a space to do it.

This is the process of doing it, moving toward it,
identifying it, seeing it.

So many times these things get buried.

And that is what drives the blaming of other things.

When we see that shifting the perspective out,
however, this stuff works.

The emotions, they don't even want to be seen.

They just want to hide out in there.

They say the problem is external.

Don't look at me, you know?

Yeah, like, cloaking device can make us think

that everything else is the problem, make us feel bad
if we even try to approach it.

Because you try to say like this is saying

nothing, holding you back more than yourself.

Then they.

And that flares up.

The ego tries to say, no, there's no problem here.

Don't have to change. Okay?

But see, this is doing it.

When we identify it, we say, I'm ready to go deep.

I'm ready to change.

We have to get to that root level as the difficulty.

See, that's navigating all the barriers.

Even to say that I'm open to doing it.

What a huge barrier you've already
accomplished is like you're getting right to the door. See?

And take a deep breath. Calm.

No pressure, nothing forced.

This is the model that fasting is showing us. Openness.

Huge process, huge progress happening through openness.

It's this kind of this paradox, this tension.

You don't really have to do anything,
but you have to do the process of doing nothing.

You have to open the space.

You have to give it space and time and openness
so that these things can be released.

Here's how this continues.

If there is an ongoing gap between where you are
and where you want to be,

and your efforts to close it are consistently met

with your own resistance, pain, and discomfort.

Self-sabotage is almost always at work.

Remember the subtitle of this book,
Transforming Self-sabotage into Self-Mastery?

That is a powerful concept, powerful.

If you have struggled for a long time,
you said, man, I have been on a path for a long time.

I have had a desire, a goal to

go to a different place for a long time.

I've even put a lot of work into it and struggled with it.

Such a barrier.

Look what it's saying.

You've put these efforts in.

Have you had an experience like that?

You've met resistance from yourself.

You take some steps forward,
but you always find yourself taking steps back.

Self-sabotage.

Very hard to even see, very hard to see.

But now we are looking at it.

We're looking at the patterns.

We're going deep. We're seeing what is really happening.

Why is reality the way it is?

And the surface?

Self-sabotage seems masochistic.

It appears to be a product of self-hatred, of low
confidence, or a lack of willpower.

But in reality, self-sabotage
is simply the presence of an unconscious need

that is being fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior.

See it? It's not.

It's not all negative.

We said we have had difficulties and experiences
that happen to us in life.

We developed habits and patterns
that at one point served us.

They brought us comfort. They helped us.

But then we got stuck in that place

and now they are no longer serving us.

Now they are hindering us.

Is how we can start to have even grace

and compassion for that situation.

Maybe you can sink back into that space.

Where did these patterns start?

Where did the difficulty happen and why?

What trauma happened, what difficulty happened,
and how did this help me?

And you can show gratitude to it.

This is like we're really this how we unearth it, right?

Rooted out. We start bringing anger.

Remember, we had the thing letting go of anger

don't have anger for any experience that happened.

Bring gratitude as much as possible to it.

This how we let go of it.

To overcome this, we must go through a process
of deep psychological excavation.

Yeah. This is what I'm saying.

Pinpoint
the traumatic event, release the unprocessed emotions,

find healthier ways to meet our needs, reinvent
our self-image.

Is absolutely what I want to help us all do.

Reinvent our self-image.

That's the creative process. That's what I'm describing.

The brushstrokes.

We're painting a new picture in our life.

They say no small task at work that all of us

must do at one point or another.

Well, I would say work
we must do if we want to move forward.

If we want to overcome something,
then we have to do, work like that.

I would say,
but no pressure to have to do it at any specific point.

No pressure at all. But.

Perfectly fine to like,
I like to say, walk along the river for a while.

We're seeing the flow happening.

Like I said today, maybe you're in a superficial zone.

Those are some deep thoughts.

I think they're the
they're the deepest type of thinking that I can,

can do or communicate the book, helping me

to communicate these deep ideas.

I do believe every weight loss obstacle can be overcome.

I do believe it with a powerful mindset.

These are the types of mindsets
that I see help people to do it.

To really drill in on the deep questions
what do I really want?

What is holding me back?

If there are external things that are holding you back,
of course we can recognize it.

And then the deep work,
anything internal that is holding us back.

Many times
I think if we were to really, honestly look at it.

The things that we see externally as barriers
really, really still our internal.

It's at least the internal process really,

we think, okay, to deal with an external barrier,
I gotta do an external thing.

But many times still it's internal.

See it like an A barrier.

Things that are coming to me say or a process food
that is addictive.

The sugar.

Something like this as like a barrier okay.

But it's our relationship to it. We want to change that.

We have to change our relationship to it
and then that will flow back out.

Do you see almost anything works like that.

Take the external barrier that you see.

Look at the other side of it.

How does it look from the inside?

What is the internal attachment?

The relationship?

How do we change the relationship?

Bringing awareness to it and understanding.

Now to practice that we're taught much in our society,
right?

We're taught always look external,
always look at the thing and get angry at it.

Not take a deep breath, not reflect inward

at look at our relationship to it, to change it.

Change ourself first.

Then we can flow out.

From a position of positivity
bringing light into difficult things.

That's what we want.

We want to bring the lightness.

Where are we going in 2026?

Have we identified the mountain?

Are we walking toward it? Are we at least looking at it?

We're seeing it.

We're letting these deep emotional centers are working

under the surface and processing, recharging up.

For our assault on the mountain.

Our great assault of doing nothing. Okay.

It could be physical steps,
taking a walk, an actual hike, getting on a trail.

If that's your thing.

What an incredible health practice. Love it.

But our practice walking up a mountain,
it might just be sitting still.

Walk up a mountain by sitting still.

Let the fasting space happen.

Let fasting do the work as one path.

We want to bring every good thing together.

Support our total wellness and flourishing.

Check out this quote
But I thought really summarized this thinking today.

It's not who you are that holds you back, okay?

Because bringing more grace into ourselves
and not judging ourselves, we're just building

every positive thing to looking at the reality of
the thing is not who we are that is holding us back.

It's who you think you're not. Who are you really?

Who is future you?

Who are we becoming?

We did, that session closing out last year.

Who we were and who were becoming.

Who are who
we are right now is in the intersection of that space.

See, there's things in here holding us back.

But that's not who we really are, because who we really are

is the person that is moving forward and is becoming new.

We are not stuck in the past.

We are not defined by habits and patterns and difficulty
that we have.

We can be new.

We open our mind to it.

Open our mind to the possibility.

Of who we can be, what we can experience.

The way of being in the world
that we can have an experience.

This is what we want.

Who we are is not holding us back.

Who we are is the part of us that is here diving deep,

listening, contemplating,

ready to do the work, ready to make the climb.

That's who we really are.

That's who we are and who were becoming.

That is the path of walking forward and overcoming

and releasing every barrier,
whether it's internal or external.

We're going to overcome it, step forward through it.

You can't stop a mindset like that. That's what I would say.

A human being.

Strong, powerful.

The human spirit I loved.

In that session,
we were talking about the supernova that the supernova,

the experience of the star fuzing all these elements.

Creating metal out of star, blowing it across the universe.

The iron that was in the star

is carrying oxygen now around our bloodstream.

Okay?

The very stuff that we are made out of,
the calcium in our bones formed in this incredible

cosmic event, blown across the universe
and then incorporated into our very bodies.

Right now, we are self aware Stardust.

We are collections of stars.

The most incredible creative force in the universe
right there

that we can see the supernova effect.

It's like the very physical,
the atoms and molecules have been through that process.

To me, whether it's, true in some absolute

philosophical sense or just.

The appreciation of it can give us that power. About what?

What is a human spirit
if it isn't that kind of incredible power to say

I have been my the very being,

the very physical matter of this

body, been through the most intense, powerful

creative process in the observable universe.

Okay, I want you to have that kind of energy.

A kind of strength and attitude is available to you.

That's the mindset.

The powerful mindset.

Powerful like water.

That's why I love sitting by water like this.

I love that analogy.

Like water carving through stone, sea water.

About the most powerful thing actually in the world

can carve through a mountain, but it's soft and gentle.

So when I say that we have this power
inside of us, it's a powerful force.

Like water is a force that can carve through a mountain.

And but it takes space and time
and it does it gently and thoughtfully.

This is what we want.

Beautiful to share this space with you.

Nothing can hold you back. It's what I say.

They do some deep reflection on this today.

Identify the things that are presently holding you back.

Do some journaling and reflecting on that statement.

Nothing actually can hold me back
because you've identified it.

Going to move through it, release it,
and we'll walk forward in health together.

Have a beautiful day.

I look forward to seeing you back here soon.